HECKLED!
This story has a valuable lesson about how
best to approach women so I thought I'd pass it along.
I had a full weekend of GET THE GIRL NOW workshops
to present and was feeling pretty good about the last one.
It was held in an upscale place and the guys there were
all very sharp and paying attention.
I reached the point in the presentation when
I was throwing out some ideas for openers (things to say
to open a conversation with a woman or a group of women).
I offered up some 'opinion' openers - things about which
anyone could ask a woman's opinion to get a conversation
going.
For example, you could ask a group of women:
"What's the sexiest food?"
"When you go out on a date, do you prefer
a guy who has it all planned out, or do you like it if he
leaves it up to you?" (favorite of my friend Dr. Robert
Glover from http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com)
"Which one of you is the nerdiest? I like
nerds"
"When you get dressed, do you start with the
blouse and match everything to that? Or do you start with
the pants? Or do you start with how you feel?"
"I saw two women working on laptops in a coffee
shop - one folded it up and took it with her to the bathroom
- the other left hers at the table when she went to the
bathroom. Which one do you think has more credit card debt?
Which one is more fun in bed? Which one are you?"
All of a sudden, one guy in the front row
(call him Hank) couldn't stand it anymore. He literally
blurted out "this is NONSENSE - She going to KNOW you're
trying to pick her up! She's going to KNOW you're interested
in her!"
I loved that Hank threw that out there, because
it got the whole room talking. And because it gets at the
core of flirting and getting the girl.
Yes, approaching a woman and offering up a
topic of conversation MIGHT tip her off that you're interested
in talking to her. In fact, its LIKELY that she will SUSPECT
that you're ATTRACTED to her. And some of the time, she
will be absolutely THRILLED that you ARE interested.
The outcome that Hank blurted out - the fact
that she might KNOW you're interested in her - is precisely
the outcome you WANT. You don't want to do it explicitly
by walking up and saying "I'm really interested in you"
because that may make her think you're just a bit desperate.
You just want to IMPLY your interest by the actions you
take, and let her imagination run wild.
That, my friend, is flirting.
Its important that you follow that up with
some kind of TEST - a TEST that will tell you whether or
not she is interested in you. In fact, the best thing about
an opinion opener is that it has a built-in test: If she
gives you a well-thought out answer, SHE'S INTERESTED. And
now her imagination is really running wild...but there's
more to it than what I can write in a quick email.
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